His online dating profile is active RIGHT before / after he calls me. This bothers me, it seems disrespectful?

Even though I haven't taken my profile down, I don't access it sometimes several days. I wouldn't mind it if it were done once in a while until we got closer. But he is doing that even as we are getting closer, and just after we scheduled a date. It seems disrespectful because it is often minutes before or after he has called me. Advice or thoughts?





So, I called him and canceled our date with some excuse. He is the one that seems to be wanting to be closer than what my timing is, though so far the interest is pretty mutual. We are not exclusive, haven't talked about it, nor have we had sex.





We HAVE kissed and made out for long periods of time. We have had long dates, 12 hours long. We have each other's personal email address, so he is NOT checking for email from me. He CAN see my profile and pictures without logging on his account. I can see his, I know this is the case.





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His online dating profile is active RIGHT before / after he calls me. This bothers me, it seems disrespectful?
So you met through an online dating site, and have graduated to dates offline? That's always promising :). You're not exclusive, and haven't even discussed that as a possibility. It sounds like YOU want to be exclusive, but without any communication you're expecting him to read your mind. Men are about as far from mind readers as it gets!





Why would he think you would care if he is active on the online dating site if you are just casually dating? He doesn't need to take your lead as to how often you check your profile to mean how often he should be checking his profile. If he isn't insecure, he probably thinks when you cancel the date you're cancelling for the reason you say you are.





Communication is KEY here. You're gonna have to stop expecting him to read your mind. If you want to be exclusive, talk to him about it. If you want to continue casually dating, then you need to come to terms with the fact that casually dating means both of you can date other people (and may find those people through the same online dating site the two of you met on).





It can be hard to come out and say what you want, but if you don't you're never going to get it and you're going to drive away great guys by playing the "why aren't you reading my mind?" game. I'm living proof success IS possible on online dating sites...I met my fiance through an online dating site. It didn't happen instantly, so before meeting him I had lots of online dating site experience.





Hope some of this helps. Good luck!
Reply:It appears to me that he is leaving his options open. I'm sorry to say but I don't think your the one to take his interest completely. Give it time but still be mindful about what you observe.
Reply:Im not understanding the dilemma, Want to make the question more clear?
Reply:The more you cancel dates, the more he's going to want to keep his options open.


Talk to him about it if you're worried. He probably doesn't even know that it's bothering you.


Just keep getting to know him. If you haven't discussed whether or not the relationship is exclusive, he probably just has different ideas about what you think. Communication is key.

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