My partner has a profile on a dating agency(inactive but still there)should i insist he deletes it?

My partner has an inactive profile on a dating agency, no one can look at at or search for it on the site, but he can log on etc. I asked him why he didnt delete it, he said he has friends from there, i told him to give them his email address if they were friends(like normal people) An ex lover text him the other day and he used his profile to check up on him ie reason number two, he says it usefull. he then said it stupid to delete it, he could always make another in five minutes and i would never know, i said and he agreed that he wouldnt make another one...he insists on keeping it..defenatly inactive ( i have checked) but still there......i am helping him through alot of **** already (sueing his ex from 2yrs ago) and its little things like this that make it harder. Give and take.


is it just me or is he being completly unreasonable? Is an inactive profile on a dating agency acceptable?......Or should i insist on him deleting it? Just feels wrong? advise please?

My partner has a profile on a dating agency(inactive but still there)should i insist he deletes it?
yes!
Reply:are you gay? no offence, just confused.
Reply:The choice is yours, if you don't feel comfortable with it, I say don't accept it you have to do what make you feel right and if he can start another one, he can delete this one to keep down conflict in your relationship.





He really doesn't need more drama in his relationships for you to deal with.





I don't know how us woman enjoy our mates when they come with so much drama and issues that prevent us from having a healthy relationship with them.





Now you can't make anyone do something they don't want to do and if this issue is causing you mental drama, I suggest you make a decision that you can live with because no guy is worth mental stress.





If he values the relationship you both have he can do something as simple as delete the inactive file.





Now, please be thankful its inactive, he might want to keep it that way until he knows for sure he has truly found the ideal relationship for him so at least give him a break on that issue if this be the case.
Reply:OK even tho I'm seeing a guy exclusively, I still have my profiles on, say, Yahoo personals. I keep it because I'm just interested in seeing who I'm matched with, because last time I looked, I knew my top match and I thought that was hilarious. Also, honestly, if things don't work out (which they might not, let's be reasonable here), then it's a back-up. Don't insist on him deleting it, he's still all yours, at least his profile is inactive (mine isn't). Neither of you are being unreasonable, just compromise.
Reply:i havetried to delete mine. the closest i can get is to make it inactive. however, my boyfriend knows about it %26amp; he trusts me. i think that is what it ll comes down to,is trust. if you have trust issues, then discuss it. if you still can trust him, it's your issue. do what you have to do..whatever that is for you..
Reply:Trust is a big part of a relationship if you don't have it maybe you should rethink you situation.
Reply:Yes He should remove it completely. If he has friends there as he says then if he is being truthful with you, he would give them an e-mail address to stay in contact. That's if he isn't hiding something from you. I have seen a lot of this and quite truthfully I would not trust much . He appears not to be on the up and up . Your not insisting he get it off is only enabling him to keep on going on perhaps behind your back. Why keep pulling him out of the ditches he jumps into when he is like that. looks like he is a user. Added coment, what makes youthink he is not using other means to contact others when you see this???
Reply:If he is not using it then you shouldn't have to worry about it. I think you are being a little oversensitive about the subject. He DID have a life before he met you - and vice versa.
Reply:YES!! I would.. because I took my profile off of Myspace once I got serious with my boyfriend because of respect for him. I didn't want to cause problems... It feels wrong because it is there and it could be used! I would just ask him to please out of respect for you and the relationship to please remove it!
Reply:I know it makes you feel uncomfortable but it's inactive right. Maybe he can't get rid of it. If you can't trust your partner, then you really don't have a relationship. In the same token, if he cares about you, he would do anything he could to get rid of it and make you happy. Maybe it's time for you to move on and for him solve his own legal issues. If you feel it's wrong, it usually is.

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